Venus in Cancer

Love for you is something that is very dependent upon home, family and security, no matter how wild or adventurous you may like to think you are. A case of 'love me, love my family' - and loving Other's family would be just as important. You are also romantic in a dreamy sort of way. But such a mix of the cozy and the ideal could be pretty hard to find or maintain, for they may reflect childhood longings that amount to mere fancy.

You attract with tenderness and a familiar charm that makes Other feel both excited and comfortable; with an extremely caring and compassionate nature that protects and nurtures Other; and with domestic skills such as cooking, décor and warm hospitality.

You repel with a misuse of your ability to get inside Other in the form of emotional blackmail; with a suffocating and clingy neediness that makes Other want to get as far from you as you try to be close to him / her; and by being a stay-at-home or blindly depending on Other to keep the home-fires burning.

You are attracted to Others who appreciate the importance of home and family life; to soulful Others who possibly have some affliction for you to sympathize with; and to cuddly romance rather than thrusting passion - at least once you have exhausted this cultural myth.

You are repelled by brashness or a rejection of anything or anyone that you feel for; by being made to feel unwelcome or taken for granted; by a lack of sensitivity, especially towards children, animals, Nature and yourself; and by impersonal sex.

When you are alone, it could be that you have done to Other the very thing that you cannot bear being done to you: taken him / her for granted in some way. It is most likely that you have been enjoying the emotional or material security of a relationship long enough for you not to notice that it's there.

Consequently, you have looked for something more exciting elsewhere, or Other has found someone more appreciative elsewhere. Conversely, you may have clung too closely and fussed and fawned over Other to the point when he / she just had to get away - or this may be how Other has been with you, and you have had to run. A third reason is simply that you have been after the dream lover which an ordinary mortal can never be; you must track back to your childhood for why.

Venus in Cancer: Kindness, sympathy, the expression of true love and affection, and a high level of emotion, are characteristic. A powerful protective instinct can at times create a claustrophobic atmosphere within a relationship. A tendency to look nostalgically to the past is also frequent, and this may need conscious correction if the subject is not to reach stalemate sue to his or her fear of progressive changes. Killing with kindness and moodiness are sometimes present; and the need for a secure relationship is of above-average importance. Ties of friendship will be long-lasting. Love and affection will be focused on the home, and a great deal of money will be spent carefully to make it comfortable - although often cluttered and untidy. Creative cooking and home crafts will be displayed with flair. A safe, steady growth of capital is preferred, and shrewd investments will be made when possible.

Venus in Cancer: Your emotional responses are related to a simple and direct standard, your need for security and a home. Since this is a basic life urge, your love is loyal and devoted, with a depth of the self-preservation instinct, which does not, however, make you selfish. Your whole nature hides in a protective shell till you have taken the emotional step that makes you secure; then it unfolds graciously, like a flower in the warm sun, and beautifies your whole world. The fear of being hurt by love - of being thus innerly insecure - is very strong. You may seem sensitive and touchy, not to the superficial niceties but to the bigger things that could shake your world. You can harness your emotions to making your own security, and so can be successful in business, to which you bring the primitive maternal, or paternal, forces. This, however, is the only way in which you are materialistic. You like sentimental gestures only if you think they spring from sincerity. The forced kiss, the dutiful embrace, mean nothing to you. Your emotional polarity is not primarily physical; and though you can respond to ardor, you can take it or leave it alone.

Venus in Cancer: In Cancer, Venus paints the picture of a native who wants security in love. His needs are basic: shelter, love, protection, the best for his loved ones. His standards are high, but the drive, fire and ambition to obtain his desires often is lacking. The astrologer must 'shake him up' to his potential. The native is sentimental and sincere; he feels silly wasting time on people or things which do not interest him. Thus he tends to arouse antagonism among those who feel he merely is being rude.

Venus in Cancer: Your appetite for love is very strong, but you do not usually satisfy it in a regular, even way. Rather, it builds up for a long period of time, and when it does find release it is often quite explosive. This happens partly because you are unwilling or unable to let your partner know your desires until the internal pressure has become very great. It is better to work out a clear system of communication so you will not suffer frustration because your partner is unaware of your needs.

For you, love at its best is an all-encompassing experience in which you completely possess and dissolve into your lover in such a way that the barriers between your personalities are washed away. In everyday life as well, you look for total devotion from your lover, and you give it as well.

Although your style of loving is very intense and exhilarating, it can also devolve into a mawkish dependency that is not healthy for either personality. True devotion must rest on mutual strength and trust between equals, so you should avoid the sometimes natural desire to totally own or be owned by your lover. Such roles can he healthily played out in bedroom games, but should be scrupulously avoided in everyday life if you want to maintain a lasting, loving relationship.

Venus in Cancer: You like to be very close to people, and you need to have an especially affectionate relationship with your parents. You always want to be sure that you can count on someone for emotional support. At the same time, you are willing to give the same support to anyone you love. You may not have lots of friendships or love relationships, but you don't need to. All you want is a few very good ones.

If you decide that no-one loves you, you may be desperate to find a friend to give you moral support. The only problem here is that if you feel unloved and insecure, you will be very jealous and possessive of your friends, especially if they pay attention to someone else. This may lead to rivalry with your brothers and sisters for your parents' attention, if you feel unsure about your parents' feelings toward you.

Nevertheless, when you like someone, you like that person a lot, and you show it. You are a very faithful friend, and you will never do anything to hurt someone you like unless that person hurts you first - in which case you are very likely to strike back.

Your relationship with your mother will be especially important; and as you get older, it may be hard to break away from her apron strings, although you won't want to admit it. However, if you have a good relationship with her, your other relationships throughout life will also be good.

Venus in Cancer: Keywords: imaginative, home-loving, warm and caring, supportive, sensitive. When Venus is placed in the cardinal Water sign of Cancer, an inordinate need to love and be loved fuels an immense insecurity from which most of their actions emanate. Since Cancer is ruled by the Moon, the maternal principle dominates the way they perceive themselves and the nature of their relationships. On the positive side, these nurturing individuals provide others with a strong, secure emotional cushion as well as a comfortable, flourishing home environment. Endowed with emotional strength and the ability to hold things together, they often attract individuals in need of intellectual, spiritual and/ or financial support.

Amazingly loyal and attentive, these generally insecure people will stop at nothing to keep their families intact, and, in the process, frequently become unnecessarily overprotective; if Venus is poorly aspected, they can even be secretive, controlling and manipulative. Often defensive, pessimistic and, at its most extreme, paranoid, they often live in constant fear that they will be deserted by loved ones, or lose their money; or that their creativity will dissipate. Instead of being secure in the knowledge that they are loved simply for who they are, these people often try too hard to create the type of environment from which their partners dare not leave. To solidify a marriage that was already on the rocks, one client with Venus in Cancer even installed a music studio for his wife, a singer, in their beautiful home, only to be totally devastated when she eventually left him. When I pointed out to him that his own insecurities actually prevented him from being sensitive to his wife's real needs, my explanation fell on deaf ears.

This co-dependent behavior, in that one person controls the emotional climate by making another person completely dependent on him or her, is typical of Venus in each of the Water signs - especially if afflicted. Because it is often simpler for Venus in Cancer people to be caretakers rather than seek assistance (which would reveal their own neediness), they tend to excuse rather than strengthen the character weaknesses of their partners and / or their children.

While romanticism is indeed an asset to their creativity, it may also be responsible for their completely unrealistic attitudes concerning those they love. A desperate need to form a family unit coupled with a lack of faith in their capacity to maintain relationships frequently precipitates idealization of the partner and the creation of an unequal partnership. While placing someone on a pedestal may seem complimentary, it often becomes manipulative and overly possessive, causing the partner to flee from the very situation Venus in cancer people have tried so hard to perfect. Although Cancer is known to be an extremely emotional sign, their feelings are often directed inwards towards defensive behavior; the true compassion of Venus in Cancer can only manifest when it is realized that a healthy relationship is founded on two individuals who are secure within themselves.

Unlike Venus in Gemini, the creativity of introspective Venus in Cancer is marked by romantic idealism and a vivid imagination. Due to an affinity with the home as well as the intricacies of computer technology, they have a talent for real estate, interior design, computer graphics and programming. Because they constantly question their talents, they are overly sensitive to the opinions of others; and, as a result, Venus in Cancer people are often very secretive about their work and creative ideas until it is certain they will be met with approval.

Because this placement represents the attainment of self-esteem through their roles as spouses and parents, Venus in Cancer men - whose attributes include fierce loyalty, dependability and devotion to their loved ones - have heretofore been admonished as 'unmanly'. With the distinction between male and female roles narrowing, these sensitive and artistic men may soon be admired and even envied for their emotional attachment and compassion, in much the same way that women with Venus in Aries or Scorpio will no longer have to defend their dynamic personalities or fight for creative autonomy.

Venus in Cancer: Here, the individual learns the lessons of emotional love. He is intuitive, sensitive, warm and affectionate, with a natural sense of feeling for all that is occurring around him. This, along with his deep understanding of loyalty and devotion, makes him the natural emotional center of his family. He provides the nostalgic memories of tender moments from the past and the sincere warmth which gives a sense of continuity to those close to him.

Yet, he has difficulty drawing the line between affection and attachment. Venus here rules the early pre-school years, when the clinging child is extremely dependent upon mother. Unless an effort is made to overcome early patterning, the person can easily develop a dependency neurosis which makes it difficult for him to travel far from home, break free from exaggerated attachments, and find his individuality. There are important lessons to learn if the person as an adult is to experience the warmth and continuity of love without the irrational childlike clinging which can close off his consciousness from all that life has for him.

The Yod to this Venus placement is formed by the inconjuncts from Sagittarius and Aquarius - the two most freeing signs in the zodiac. Sagittarius symbolizes man's free spirit, the enthusiasm and enjoyment of travelling great distances and the ability to encounter new and foreign experiences which enrich the mind and broaden one's outlook on life. From this sign, the person must learn how to expand his lifestyle by a higher form of understanding and knowledge, gained either through education, or studies of philosophy or religion, or through the travelling which gives him a sense of worldliness, enabling him to externalize his consciousness.

The Venus in Cancer individual has a sensitive attunement to nature and natural law, along with a great affinity for environmental beauty. Yet, to realize this, he must learn through the sign Sagittarius the ways in which the broad and expansive understandings of his society and culture provide a more realistic base for all he needs in life than the confining scope of his early childhood dependencies.

From the sign Aquarius, he must learn how to trust friendships, which give him a base of acceptance outside his immediate family. This teaches him to understand how relationships evolve (not through clinging or possessiveness, but rather through fairness and objectivity, and the humane sense of freedom through which individuals learn the importance of giving each other the space to think, feel, and be 'children of the universe').

The sextile from Sagittarius to Aquarius shows the expansion of consciousness possible when the individual realizes that his personal feelings must come from his attunement to a greater cosmic whole. The unconscious mother attachments in early childhood must be externalized so that the person feels the guiding principles of human nature (Sagittarius) as the 'mother' of his ability to trust the outside world, and the impersonal fairness of life (Aquarius) as the 'universal mother' of his consciousness. When he realizes this, he begins to awaken to a greater quality of love than he could ever possibly imagine.

The loyal and patriotic feelings of the Venus in Cancer placement become broadened to the ideals and principles which are the very essence of life's meaning. The individual discovers that it is these very ideals and principles that he must hold onto, rather than the individuals who taught them to him. He learns that the center of beauty through which his Gift of Love unfolds comes from his understanding that life is a journey of discoveries, always containing a wealth of unrealized opportunities. The home to which he is so attached becomes the nesting place within himself, from which he is able to open his feelings to the stream of cosmic understanding that is flowing through him. It is from the security of this base that he is able to serve, encourage, inspire and uplift the hearts of all whose lives he touches.

Venus in Cancer: Keynote: Affections are maternal and sympathetic. Symbol: A woman decorates a cake with pink sugar roses.

Feminine Venus fares well in Moon-ruled Cancer because both are concerned with the processes of reproduction and growth. People born with this placement are sentimental and affectionate, with strong family ties, especially to the mother. Money and property are apt to come from the maternal side of the family.

Both the strengths and weaknesses of Venus in Cancer are those associated with the female of the species. Negatively, the combination may mean a predisposition toward possessiveness, susceptibility to flattery, shyness, and excessive emotionalism. It gives a tendency to stay in one place and wait for good fortune to arrive, rather than to actively pursue coveted objects and objectives. The wit who commented 'It should be no more necessary for a woman to chase a man than for a mousetrap to chase a mouse' was referring to this type of temperament.

Positively, the desire to be desirable implies cultivation of the virtues of charity and kindheartedness. Venusian Cancerians want to be petted, cherished, and admired for their good qualities. They long for peace and quiet in their home sphere, where they make loyal, contented partners. They are competent cooks and excel in the domestic arts.

The passivity of Cancer tends to soften the emotional nature of the person born with Venus in this sign. It can be hard for these gentle souls to resist the advances of aggressive personalities. Being inclined to over generosity in the bestowal of their affections, they need protection against their own tender instincts, for they can allow loved ones to take advantage of their willingness to oblige. They are often well advised to seek occupations such as teaching, or nursing, which afford a relatively objective outlet for their easily tapped feelings. The effect of earthy Venus dissolving into the waters of Cancer can be too sweetly sensuous to be altogether safe in this predatory world. Strong discipline is needed to counteract a love of comfort which can degenerate into a sybaritic craving for luxury.

The Venus-Cancer woman feels instinctively that good food and domestic felicity keep the conjugal flame glowing, and seeks through her skill in anticipating the wishes of her mate to attach him to her by the firm strands of requited affection. Similarly, a man with this combination appreciates the romantic potential of a candlelight dinner in a tastefully appointed setting. Both sexes are attracted to art, music and literature, especially of a fanciful or exotic genre. Beauty is not a luxury but a necessity in their lives; and their appetite for pleasing sights and sounds can be more insistent than physical hunger. They prefer creations which are imaginative, soft in outline, and muted in tone, and which permit them to indulge their nostalgia for a bygone era of gracious living and lavish loving.

People with a strong Moon-Venus accent in their natal charts are popular and often beloved. They are regarded kindly by all who are drawn within their aura of charm, grace, and personal magnetism. Seldom emotionally assertive, they have no need to be obtrusive, since their sympathetic nature enables them to gain the best of everything, or to make the best of that which has been given.

Venus in Cancer: Here is sentimentality rather than strong or ardent affection. Venus in this sign is plastic, kindly, gentle, receptive, changeable, feminine and forever looking for security. The basic need is security, whether it is exemplified by dependency on persons or on material possessions. Venus in Cancer operates subconsciously, so it is completely emotional and instinctive in its dependency, and its search for security never ends. Loyalty to the family is strong. Despite her tenacity when the emotional life is frustrated or blocked, Venus in this sign is susceptible to depleting diseases. If the love life is not satisfactory, this Venus can have psychological indigestion that will affect the physical digestive organs eventually. Because of their lack of aggressiveness, people with Venus in Cancer are liked. There is a quietness that has charm, yet because of the Moon's influence there is little constancy. They are mothering rather than mating people. They love children and are fond of home and parents.

Venus in Cancer: You express your feminine side in the traditional sense very well. This means, if you're a woman, you may be somewhat timid or passive, and are possibly looking for a traditional relationship. If you're a man, you may be the strong, silent type, and again are probably looking for a traditional relationship. Venus in Cancer has a tendency to fear rejection, and therefore tends to need a lot of security. Once love blooms, the relationship tends to be very intense; Venus in Cancer likes it that way.

Venus in Cancer: As a pre-existing pattern of inner relatedness, the Venus in Cancer person comes into life fundamentally insecure. This insecurity is based on, and caused by, the nature of their inner emotional reality, which is like a tornado of different swirling emotional states that seem to come and go of their own volition, that seem to be beyond the control of the individual. Inwardly, as a result, the Venus in Cancer person feels that he / she is standing on ever-shifting sands. These people feel deeply insecure because the nature of their emotional state and the need that these states create cannot be inwardly controlled. The inner cross-currents of different emotions converge and combine in ways that create moments in which they can feel stable and secure in one moment, and highly insecure and unstable in the next.

The intention of souls who have Venus in Cancer has been, and is, to inwardly know and relate to themselves as emotional beings. The knowing of themselves through the ever-shifting cross-currents of different emotional states produces an inner confusion because of the different self-images that each emotional state induces. And each emotional state dictates needs that are motivated by the desire to feel secure, to feel safe, and to be stabilized. Inwardly, these individuals feel highly vulnerable and insecure. Typically, they related to themselves from moment to moment. Each emotion (and the moods that they produce) defines their inner psychology on an ongoing basis. Inwardly, there is a fundamental desire to be taken care of, to be nurtured, by someone whom they can trust. There is a core desire for someone to help them feel stable, safe, and secure. The deep inner need for this is its own causal factor, generating the different emotional states in the first place.

The reason for this, typically, is that these individuals have missed a key step in their behavioral development as children. This step occurs around twenty months of age when the baby learns to internalize one or both parents in such a way that when the parent is not physically nearby or present, the baby still feels safe and secure. Missing this step becomes a causal factor leading to the displaced emotions of childhood manifesting in their adult life. These displaced emotions are essentially the emotions of a young child.

The root cause of this is that they bring forward from other lifetimes emotional imprints and pre-existing patterns that are defined by some cataclysmic event in which their ability to feel inwardly secure has been severely compromised. Whatever the specific event was, it becomes a casual factor generating an inner abyss of emotional volatility and cross-currents of unpredictable emotional states. even if they had parents who were loving, nurturing, and doing their very best to help them feel secure when they were a baby, it is never quite enough from the child's point of view. As adults, this same effect can occur even when they have loving and supporting people in their lives, for the same reasons. Even when the Venus in Cancer people are given the love, nurturing, and the stabilizing effect that they desire, it is never quite enough.

Venus in Cancer people have an inherent emotional expectation that is projected into their relationships, in which others should somehow just know what they need without their actually verbalizing what the need is. It is simply a deep, silent expectation. This is exactly what babies and small children do. They just naturally expect their needs to be identified and met by the parents. When this does not occur to the baby's satisfaction, they instinctively cry or scream in varying degrees of intensity. Similarly, the Venus in Cancer people, as adults, silently expect their needs to be understood and met. When this does not occur, the unmet expectations produce emotional behaviors that can even shock the Venus in Cancer people themselves. These behaviors range from a deep, permeating silence in which the subconscious intent is to draw or pull someone into their emotional state in order for it to be identified and worked with, to extreme emotional displays that are driven or caused by displaced anger. The cause of this kind of extreme behavior, resembling a coiled spring that snaps under stress, is a build-up of emotional frustration. The emotional reaction is usually disproportionate to the event or circumstance that triggers it.

Because these people relate to themselves on an emotional basis, they naturally relate to others on an emotional basis. Because they are perpetually 'hearing' or 'listening' to their own inner emotional reality, they can naturally identify or 'hear' another's emotional state, and the needs that any given emotional state generates, even when the other person is not verbalizing or actively projecting what that emotional state or reality is about. Venus in Cancer people have an inherent ability to emotionally empathize with other people, to silently tune in. When others are perceived to be in a state of emotional distress or need, the Venus in Cancer person naturally responds with very real emotional caring, wisdom, support, nurturing, and love. They will naturally encourage others to let out their emotions, and they will want to hold and embrace another who is in need. The very essence of their touch or holding is warm, consuming, and reassuring. This reflects their own need to be reassured through touch and holding. More than words, the Venus in Cancer person responds to touch and holding because this is exactly how babies and small children are reassured when they are upset for whatever reason. For Venus in Cancer people, trust is established through touch, and through a silent emotional resonance with another person that operates beyond the spoken word. This is very important to understand because of the Venus in Cancer person's inherent fear of being too vulnerable. Even verbalizing what they need, or are feeling, can be too vulnerable a situation for these people. In fact, the typical verbal response of these people when asked how they are doing, especially when some deep emotional state or need is causing a deep inner withdrawal from their environment, is 'I'm fine' even when they obviously are not. This kind of response is instinctual, and is a form of the survival instinct relative to their fear of vulnerability and their fundamental distrust of most people. Thus, for those that are close to them and with whom there is a trust, the very best way to encourage them to come out of their emotional shell is through touch combined with soft, soothing words.

Sexually, Venus in Cancer desires and needs very strong touch, holding and kissing in order to feel sexually secure and trusting. Whereas Venus in Aries can simply get on with it, the Venus in Cancer person needs to be 'warmed up' first. Inherently, these people desire and need to connect and merge the emotional energies or bodies first, which then allows for a deep, permeating, and slow sexual merging to occur. When this occurs, these people can feel very erotic, and create erotic sexual environments that stimulate the emotional and sexual senses. But unless the Venus in Cancer people feels emotionally safe and secure, they will be sexually insecure. Some will be sexually immature, and can exhibit forms of sexual infantilism, sexual pedophilia, preoccupation with the body parts of the opposite sex, impotence or frigidity, etc.. When the Venus in Cancer people are in love and feels safe and secure, they can be very sexually giving and truly make their partners feel loved, safe, and secure.

For a positive evolution to proceed, the Venus in Cancer person must inwardly embrace its polarity: Capricorn. This means that these people must learn how to minimize the projection of their external dependencies in order to feel emotionally secure, safe, and stable. They must learn that the security, safety, and stability that they are desiring exists within themselves. They must learn to become responsible for their own 'emotional child'. In order to do this, they must learn how to evolve their emotional consciousness in such a way as to be able to become aware of the specific causes or origins of any given emotional state in which they find themselves, versus just being caught up within it without knowing why. By doing so, they can develop emotional self-knowledge, which allows them to become emotionally responsible for themselves - to become emotional adults. They will empower themselves and minimize their projected needs, lose their fear of vulnerability, and thus learn how to relate with people in a much more straightforward and forthcoming way. In this way, they will learn how to be in control of their emotions versus letting their emotions control them. They will attract others who encourage them to be responsible for themselves, and they will naturally encourage others to be responsible for themselves. Thereby, the 'inner child' lives in a very positive and healthy way because it has now taken responsibility for its own actions.

Venus in Cancer: You look for security and safety in partnership. You are the most caring and nurturing of lovers. Your lover is likely to be flattered by your excellent memory for all they say and do—in some cases, he or she could be intimidated as well! Sincerity from your partner is important to you, and you are attracted to people who you consider to be natural and genuine. You are the most intuitive of lovers, finding it easy to "read" your partner's character and feelings. As mentioned above, this can be flattering to many, and cause for concern for others! Which, of course, is fine by you, because the ideal partner for you is comfortable in his or her own skin. Anyone threatened by your "feelers" may not be sincere enough for you!

Appreciation, security, and tenderness are most important to you in matters of the heart. You work hard at accommodating the people you love, taking care of them in every way you can. Because you are not very comfortable with confrontations, you are prone to side-stepping problems. You are easily hurt, but you can work hard at concealing that fact. It is difficult for you to forget any kinds of actions that you consider betrayals on the part of your lover, but you are not one to run away from your commitments. You would benefit from expressing your hurts instead of letting them stew inside of you. In many cases, your partner may not even know that they've hurt you!

Your charm is of the understated kind, and you may not always know just how attractive you are to others! The truth is, no matter how you come across, you fairly ooze sweetness to members of the opposite sex. Of course, not everyone will find that quality attractive, but to those that do, you can be irresistible. It can be difficult for people to stay angry with you. This may be because you have mastered the "art" of playing innocent! You are especially attracted to neediness, and you might work hard at keeping the people you love in a state of needing you. Their dependency on you feeds you, making you feel loved, but you can have a love-hate relationship with that dependency over time. In some cases, Venus in Cancer people might wonder if they've created a monster! You do get off on taking care of your lover, often at the expense of your own needs. It would be helpful if you could detach yourself from some of the problems of your loved ones, even just a little, and recognize that you are not responsible for others' happiness. This concept is difficult for you to learn. You understand it, but living by it is a completely different thing. You observe your partner very closely, and the love you offer holds the rare quality of cherishing.

Venus in Cancer, Sun in Taurus: If the Sun sign is Taurus, passion and sensuality are heightened, with love and affection actively shown. The emotional level is extremely high, and there may be storms and scenes at times. The subject must learn not to cling to loved ones after a relationship has ended. Look for logic in other areas of the chart - the position of Mercury, perhaps. This is an affectionate but possibly demanding friend. Financial ability and an excellent business sense are likely.

Venus in Cancer, Sun in Gemini: If the Sun sign is Gemini, this Venus placement heightens the level of Geminian emotion; and, provided the subject doesn't over rationalize the feelings, these will be marvelously and romantically expressed, showing kindness and a cherishing quality. The sex life must be lively and stimulating. The subject is considerate and a good communicator with both friends and loved ones. Financial security can be gained from collecting old or unusual artifacts.

Venus in Cancer and Sun in Gemini: George Bush, Sr., Clint Eastwood, Judy Garland, Angelina Jolie, Donald Trump, BenSt, DJenkins, Flickinger, JerryH

Venus in Cancer, Sun in Cancer: If the Sun sign is Cancer, the emotional force and expression of love are very powerful, but the inclination to worry over the partner and family is immense, and the Cancerian capacity for caring may also get out of hand with friends. Here the qualities are very much as described for Venus in Cancer generally above. Shrewdness in business matters is a strong asset.

Venus in Cancer and Sun in Cancer: Ernest Hemingway, Helen Keller, O.J. Simpson, Meryl Streep, Nikola Tesla, Kyle, Mikael

Venus in Cancer, Sun in Leo: If the Sun sign is Leo, the emotional level is very high, and the subject needs a partner to look up to and admire; otherwise, there will be a tendency to dominate with a Leo bossiness that can be extremely harmful. Leo sensitivity is greatly increased; this individual will suffer more than seems possible. There will be a great appreciation of quality and the beautiful things in life, with a lot of money spent on them. Comfort, security and quality are important. The sex life will be rich, rewarding and imaginatively expressed. Here is a caring friend with excellent organizing ability.

Venus in Cancer and Sun in Leo: Dustin Hoffman, Aldous Huxley, Carl Jung, Barack Obama, Robert Plant, Arnold Schwarzenegger, BillH, Joze, JT, Lina

Venus in Cancer, Sun in Virgo: If the Sun sign is Virgo, although there will be considerable emotional resources, there may be shyness and reserve in expressing the feelings. The imagination will be rich, but worry over the lover one's reactions can be inhibiting, especially in young people. There may be a tendency to criticize the partner or to be very moody. The household chores or hobbies can be used as an excuse for failing to enjoy the intimacies of a relationship. A clever business sense is likely, but sometimes meanness is present.

Venus in Cancer and Mars in Aries: Clint Eastwood, Aldous Huxley, Angelina Jolie, Flickinger

Venus in Cancer and Mars in Gemini: O.J. Simpson, Arnold Schwarzenegger, Meryl Streep, Joze, Mikael

Venus in Cancer and Mars in Sagittarius: Judy Garland, Dustin Hoffman, Carl Jung

How Venus in Cancer Relates to a Partner with Venus in Aries: This combination definitely makes for a bit of an odd couple! Your Venus is Moon-ruled, while your partner's is Mars-ruled. There is a distinct difference between what is important to you in love, and what your partner considers important. Your partner rides high on spontaneity, and is quite open in his or her expression of feelings, if not a little erratic. You tend to take your time when it comes to both expressing feelings and moving a relationship forward. You are often defensive with your feelings, while your partner is configured to be on the offence much of the time! At first, your markedly different styles can be wildly attractive. Later, your differences can prove to be a bone of contention. Tenderness is important to you, but your partner expresses love in a more direct, aggressive manner. His or her assertive style can border on being downright inconsiderate, which is the polar opposite of how you treat a loved one! Your lover wants instant gratification and doesn't have much patience for beating around the bush, but you often require others to gently and subtly coax you to open up and express your feelings. What it boils down to is a difference in styles of expressing love and affection, and understanding that your styles are often dramatically different can go a long way toward harmony. If you are willing to learn from each other, your partner may become an expert at infusing your relationship with energy and excitement, and you can offer the support and security that doesn't come naturally to your partner.

How Venus in Cancer Relates to a Partner with Venus in Taurus: The dependability you sense in your Venus in Taurus lover is appealing to you. This is a person you can truly feel safe and comfortable with. Your partner will appreciate your warm, even practical style of expressing love. Although you tend to be the more emotional of the two, your partner can help you to feel more secure than most signs. The risk here will be that the relationship becomes too patterned, and too predictable. Your partner doesn't easily respond to indirect expressions of feeling, and is not as intuitive as you are. He or she is not the type who will push and prod you to open up, and as a result, communication can suffer. You will likely agree about issues surrounding family and finances. Both of you are committed to creating a comfortable environment and building a solid future. Flexibility, however, can be lacking in this partnership, and you might feel your partner is a little too stubborn for your liking. He or she revels in sensual pleasures, as do you, and ultimately is most satisfied with strong, permanent alliances. This is sure to please you! Once you've gained his or her trust and loyalty, your lover can be like the Rock of Gibraltar—he or she might be exactly what you need to steady your sometimes swirling emotions and to calm and soothe your fears. Stubborn and inflexible moments aside, this partnership has great potential for stability and longevity.

How Venus in Cancer Relates to a Partner with Venus in Gemini: You and your partner have Venus signs that are side-by-side. In astrology, side-by-side signs have very little in common. This generates plenty of interest and fascination between the both of you. You approach love in markedly different ways, and your partner mirrors many of the traits you lack, as well as vice versa. The attraction is strong between you. You have a uniquely nurturing approach to love and partnership. Your memory with regards to loved ones is outstanding! You cherish your partner, showering him or her with your concern and caring gestures. Your partner's style in love is more cerebral, and his or her cheerful disposition, flexibility, and intelligent charm can fascinate you. Over time, your very different approaches to love can surface as difficulties, with the bottom line a clash of values. Your partner is flirtatious with you, and his or her teasing is actually a true show of love. Until you recognize this, it can be difficult for you to feel nurtured and cared for. You are sensitive in matters of the heart, although you don't always want to show it. More than likely, you will play along with your partner's lighthearted games, but may ultimately long for more warmth. Your partner believes that any problem can be solved by talking it through. You will certainly try to work through problems, but, in your heart, you believe in and value a more emotional bond—a bond that would not only be difficult to verbalize, but that might even be cheapened if it were to be defined with words. You show love through practical gestures as well as commitment, and may leave your partner wanting for fun and excitement. On the positive side, your partner will be able to lean on you for emotional support and will value your ability to make him or her feel safe. This is important because your partner can go through some very insecure and uncertain moments. You are likely to appreciate your partner's flexibility more than anything, and you will reward your lover with a commitment that is difficult to break. Your partner needs to consciously pay more attention to tenderness in his or her exchanges with you, as this can only serve to strengthen the bond between you.

How Venus in Cancer Relates to a Partner who also has Venus in Cancer: Both of you are protective, caring lovers. Because you share the same Venusian sign, both of your strengths and your weaknesses in relationships are highlighted! Sentimentality will run high in your partnership. Others will find you the most caring, sweetest of couples. You are inclined to dote on one another, offering sympathy to your partner, and gathering sympathy from him or her as well. The problem can be too much of a good thing! All of that mothering each other probably needs a bit of structure and discipline or you could get carried away with emotions. Both of you are moody in love, and in terms of sensitivity, you've met your match! You are likely to agree on commitment to family and security, and you'll be very devoted to each other. There is a tendency for both of you to be somewhat shy in love, and, as a result, this relationship may be a little difficult to initiate or get off the ground. However, once you're past the perhaps awkward initial phases of the romance, and you are sure of your mutual feelings, commitment to one another is easy and solid.

How Venus in Cancer Relates to a Partner with Venus in Leo: While you are at your best in a relationship that feels safe and settled, your partner thrives on—and wants to be consumed with—the desire and passion of love. Your lover easily feels threatened when a relationship feels like it is settling down! You demonstrate your love in subtle ways, revealing sincere concern about how your partner is doing and tending to his or her basic emotional needs. Your partner will appreciate this attention and your sentimentality, but might feel threatened by your lack of "showiness". Your partner might find your mood swings in love rather disconcerting, and you may question your lover's commitment, finding his or her flirtatiousness hard to deal with. Your partner is, in reality, fiercely loyal, and flirtatiousness is actually fueled by the need for flattery as well as an infatuation with feeling attractive. Until you understand and accept this, you can easily find your partner's behavior distressing! Your subtle, and oftentimes indirect, approach in love can be confusing for your more frank and direct partner. Note that Leo is ruled by the Sun and Cancer is ruled by the Moon. These are two very different signs and planets! Because these signs are "next door neighbors", they don't share the same element nor do they share the same modality. The result is a distinct difference in approaches to love. Do not despair, however! With a healthy dose of tolerance, this relationship can work very well. Being aware of the different personality traits and needs of each partner is the first step to greater understanding. In fact, there is likely to be an enormous attraction between the two of you. More than most people, you both need plenty of reassurance and expressions of warmth in order to feel satisfied in a relationship...for you, to build a sense of safety and comfort, and for your partner, to build confidence. What you need to understand is that your lover has his or her ego tied up in relationships--your partner lives for love and romance! You will appreciate your lover's sincere warmth, enthusiasm, and admiration; and, while few people can sate your partner's appetite for attention and affection, you more than anyone are likely to make him or her feel special.

How Venus in Cancer Relates to a Partner with Venus in Virgo: This pairing is one of the better combinations in practice! Care and nurture will be a strong theme in this relationship. This is most likely to be a low-key relationship—perhaps not as exciting as some, but fertile in a quiet way. The physical and sensual aspects of love are important and emphasized in your relationship with this loyal and nurturing partner. Your partner's mood swings in love may spark an occasional problem, and he or she might find your approach to love a tad dry at times. Both of you, however, crave security and dependability in partnership, and you are both very capable of delivering these things to each other. You and your Venus in Cancer lover come alive in a safe environment—exactly the kind of atmosphere you enjoy creating. You value the sincerity of your partner's approach to love, and he or she senses your willingness to put effort into making your relationship work. You may find your partner lacking in the communication department, however, simply because he or she places higher value on non-verbal expressions of love. You need to understand that your partner is very sensitive to criticism, and what you might consider constructive criticism might result in some feelings of rejection. With understanding and tolerance, however, your partner can help you see the forest for the trees, and you, with your gentle ways, can stimulate your partner to open up a little more than comes naturally to him or her. More than likely, there is a lot of respect between the two of you, and a feeling of security that is enviable.

How Venus in Cancer Relates to a Partner with Venus in Libra: Initially, the fact that both of you are sensitive to each other and very accommodating might make it seem like this is a match made in heaven. On further inspection, however, there is a key difference between your styles of loving that could easily become a bone of contention over time. You express your love in a distinctly personal manner, while your partner is definitely more intellectually inclined, and his or her manner can seem particularly impersonal in your eyes. Your partner is adept at honing in on what you need and what makes you uncomfortable—so much so that he or she might change their style completely in order to keep the peace. Your partner will quickly feel you out and get to know that you are a more sensitive soul than most. The risk here is that both of you might compromise your own needs in order to avoid hurting each other's feelings, thereby maintaining the status quo. Both of you value harmony. You are capable of putting up huge walls around yourself, and communication is utterly critical to your partner's sense of fulfillment in a relationship. The more your partner presses you partner for the feedback he or she thrives on, the more you may be inclined to withdraw. As charming as your partner is, he or she might be able to coax you out of your shell. However, you both should be committed to keeping game-playing to a minimum, as that is one of the biggest problems that can arise between your different temperaments. Your greatest strengths together are sensitivity and balance, so concentrate on developing these things in aboveboard ways. Your partner will find you extraordinarily caring and supportive, and you will be thrilled at how willing your lover is to accommodate you and to compromise!

How Venus in Cancer Relates to a Partner with Venus in Scorpio: This is considered an easier pairing than most because both of your Venus signs are in Water. A similar—and familiar—vein to the quality of your expressions of love can draw you to one another and make you feel "at home". Both of you take commitment rather seriously, and neither of you is frivolous with your feelings and expressions. Your warmth and caring nature will feel regenerating to your partner, and you sense an all-encompassing love in your lover that appeals to you. At times, that love can feel all-consuming, but this doesn't scare you like it would with some other lovers. In fact, the love you give is rather similar, and your Venus in Scorpio lover doesn't fear closeness and intimacy. In fact, he or she lives for it! The attraction between the two of you is magnetic, deeply felt, and has the potential to withstand the test of time if other factors in synastry support it. Both of you tend to be possessive in love, and your memory is powerful. Communication should be as open as possible, as both of you tend towards holding silent grudges at times. Your reaction to hurts is often internalized, while your partner can grow cold and unresponsive when he or she feels slighted. However, the empathy that runs between you can soften any hard angles in your relationship.

How Venus in Cancer Relates to a Partner with Venus in Sagittarius: This is a confusing combination, although it has the potential to be very stimulating if you are willing to accept each other for who you are, and learn from one another! While you are at your best in a relationship that feels safe and secure, your partner is unhappy when a relationship becomes too predictable or confining. You show your love through your attention and caring, and this wonderful quality can sometimes feel lost on your more free-wheeling partner. Relationships that support growth in all directions are what gets your partner high and happy. He or she needs to feel like you are headed somewhere, and that the journey will be a fulfilling one both physically and mentally. Facing up to intense emotional issues or problems in the relationship is not your partner's best quality, but it is certainly your department! Intimacy, for you, is intoxicating. Rejection is your worst fear! If the love is there, your partner is certainly capable of committing, but his or her style may rub you the wrong way until you understand that it is just that—a style. Freedom and energy are important "ingredients" in a satisfying relationship in your lover's eyes, and no amount of coercing or theatrics will change those needs. However, if you can put some faith (one of Sagittarius' favorite words!) in your partner, and give him or her some freedom of movement, you won't feel the need for tactics in order to keep your lover with you. If this relationship is allowed the time and space to grow, you can have some great fun with your lover, and he or she can certainly benefit from your more tender, emotional touch.

How Venus in Cancer Relates to a Partner with Venus in Capricorn: Opposites attract, and you and your partner's Venus (love) signs are in opposite signs of the zodiac! You are sure to find each other fascinating indeed. The attraction will be powerful as you represent qualities that your partner lacks, and vice versa. However, over time, your different partnership needs can cause a few problems. Your approach to love is sensitive and intuitive, while your partner is more practically inclined. He or she prefers to have tighter control in the emotional department. However, both of you are very mindful of the future. You are both quite willing to commit, although somewhat unsure about it at the beginning. This slow and cautious approach to commitment likely stems from the fact that both of you know that you are responsible people and rushing into something might get you into something that can be difficult to break. This might mean that your relationship takes some time to get off the ground, and your partnership can involve quite a bit of "feeling each other out", and in some cases outright testing of each other, in the initial stages of romance. When your relationship settles, you will most certainly take good care of each other—you in a nurturing way and your partner in a practical sense. You have much to learn from each other, and loads to offer one another. Your relationship will meet with the most success if you appreciate each other's differences, rather than single them out and use them as emotional weapons against each other. Dependability will characterize this pairing, and both of you put dependability near the top of your "lists" in the relationship department!

How Venus in Cancer Relates to a Partner with Venus in Aquarius: This combination can be a challenging one, simply because your styles and needs in love tend to be at odds with one another. You want a relationship that is very personal and committed, while your partner is more inclined to look for a classic friendship in any love relationship! The powerful initial attraction you may feel to each other is likely due to the fascination of the differences between you. There's a bit of quirkiness in you both, although yours is a softer charm, while your partner's charm is a little more direct and offbeat. Your partner's behavior can be unsettling to you, simply because you are looking for a certain measure of security in partnership. Your lover is a freedom-lover, and his or her love may seem universal and impersonal—the style doesn't hold the kind of intimacy and attachment that you crave. Your tendency to wrap yourself around a partner is soothing and nurturing for some, and is probably attractive and fascinating for your Venus in Aquarius partner, but can cause a problem if your lover interprets it as stifling or restricting. Each of you can learn a lot from each other, as long as you are tolerant of each other's needs. Love can make it work, although plenty of adjustments are necessary to keep this pairing going.

How Venus in Cancer Relates to a Partner with Venus in Pisces: This can be a highly rewarding partnership featuring plenty of devotion and dreamy attachment. Mutual respect is likely, and some similar goals in partnership and romance are sure to strengthen the bond. Both of you value understatement and innocence in romance, and an emotional attachment is important to you both. You want to take care of the people you love, offering them security and love, and your partner is particularly receptive to this nurturing style. The biggest problem that might arise between you is this fundamental difference between your love natures: you are more clannish and personal in your affections, while your partner tends toward universal love. The sensitivity he or she expresses doesn't always make you feel special, as you sometimes may sense that your partner is in love with mankind in general, not just you! You may find yourself desiring to redirect your partner's love into more focused channels. He or she may easily fall for the underdog, and you may feel that your partner needs a little directing in this respect. You, too, are attracted to the needy, but you have met, in your Venus in Pisces lover, a soul who seems to be easily led astray, and you may spend some time trying to capture and tame this elusiveness that can be a little disconcerting! If in fact you learn to understand and accept this basic difference in style, this partnership can certainly be a powerful one. It's an especially warm, devoted, and nurturing combination, and the ties you make with each other are sure to be unforgettable.

Venus in Cancer Woman: Most of all you want closeness, with your family, your friends, and especially your lover. You're super-sensitive and very romantic, and sometimes this makes you insecure and very clingy, but it’s just the way you are. Your feelings are easily hurt and you really need to feel secure with someone you love. You take care of those you love by making them feel secure, because you know how it feels to be insecure and to have your feelings walked all over. Your home is terribly important to you and you make it as nice and as cozy as you can, with all sorts of little comforts, good food, and a pleasant atmosphere. You enjoy having your friends and family over for a home-cooked meal. You’d much rather stay home with your lover or your family than go gadding about to public restaurants and nightclubs.

You're old-fashioned and you admit it without shame or embarrassment. You feel good with your traditional things around you - pictures of people you love, mementos of all sorts, personal treasures that may seem irrelevant to others but mean a lot to you. You love children, too, and their childish ways don’t bother you a bit. In fact you like taking care of them, wiping their little faces, comforting them if they skin a knee, washing and petting them. You're an Earth Mother type underneath, even if you do have a career.

Because you're so sensitive and you don’t want to weep all over people in public, you keep a fairly dignified pose to cover your vulnerability. You know you're moody and can be unpredictable, so your security is important to you, both financial and emotional.

You want a man who can guarantee you that security, who can be a good, solid provider and father for your children. It would help enormously if he is a romantic and likes the romantic gesture - you know, like bringing flowers and having dinner by candlelight. If he ridicules you and your rather sentimental tastes, you’ll be crushed. You bring a lot of imagination to romance as well, even though you tend to express a big part of yourself in a maternal way, by taking care of him, remembering the little things he likes, like two spoons of sugar in his coffee. You know when you’ve met the right man, because you want to introduce him to your mother and you know she’ll love him, too.

Venus in Cancer Man: It’s easy to hurt your feelings, even if you don’t let on. Your sensitivity is sometimes a sore point with you. You want closeness and sensitivity from others, but you don’t always get it. Because you like nurturing and being nurtured, you're called “too sensitive,” but most often you hide your vulnerability in a dignified manner. You know that you're often unpredictable, both emotionally and mentally, and so you seek a stable domestic situation. You want financial security so that you can make your home a shelter from the storm. Marriage doesn’t put you off. In fact, you welcome it as a way of creating a safe haven. You cherish your family and your home is your castle.

Your taste may be somewhat old-fashioned, even sentimental, but you like things that are personal. You like mementos, and you enjoy remembering the little things that people like. If your ladylove favors pink tea roses, she’ll always get them from you. But you like to use your imagination too, and create nice experiences that way. Comfort and beauty are important to you, especially in your home environment, and you’d rather entertain at home than go out to restaurants or public places. It’s so much cozier. You even like to cook, and you don’t mind doing the grocery shopping. If it’s for your home, you enjoy it.

You even call your mother regularly without being reminded to do it. You have a great sense for family.

The woman of your dreams is delicate and sensitive, a real lady in the old-timey sense of the word. She likes to keep house, even if she has a career, and she likes to nurture you and her children, if she care of, and in return you take care of her. Your home is your bastion against a cold, cruel world, and you keep it as pleasant and lovely as possible, entertaining your friends there and giving them the same sense of security you enjoy together.

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